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Friend With a Benefit
Or a benefit in waiting, posing as a friend?
Hey Theo,
I have a friend with a benefit. Well more so just the benefit at this point. We were friends for a year and I never thought much of him. Then one day he came to my house, we wound up spending over 12 hours together, just making out and hanging out, and I don't know what happened but I became attracted to him. Since then he's been coming over every now and then to have sex with me. (It's been maybe six or seven months.) However, ever since we started hooking up, he's no longer wanted to hang out with me outside of my house. We used to go out to eat, see a movie, or just wander around aimlessly, but now he never wants to do those things anymore. Whenever I ask him to get dinner with me, he's always busy and he never asks to hang out anymore. He just wants to come over to have sex. Can you help make sense of that?? If he used to like spending time with me, why would that change? It's not even like he's a friend with a benefit anymore; it's like the friend part is out of the equation.
Thanks in advance Theo!
— Bedtime Betty
Dear Betty,
Too busy? Lame! Somehow he's not too busy to get busy. Sometimes when the friendship line gets crossed, things change drastically. Looks to me like now he's got you, he is focused solely on gettin' some. That happens, especially if he has been biding his time through the so-called friendship. Maybe all the eating and hanging out was in the deepest hope of that "end of the rainbow pot of gold" make-out session and lots of sex. I do hope the sex is good, so you're getting something out of this.
I have a friend with a benefit. Well more so just the benefit at this point. We were friends for a year and I never thought much of him. Then one day he came to my house, we wound up spending over 12 hours together, just making out and hanging out, and I don't know what happened but I became attracted to him. Since then he's been coming over every now and then to have sex with me. (It's been maybe six or seven months.) However, ever since we started hooking up, he's no longer wanted to hang out with me outside of my house. We used to go out to eat, see a movie, or just wander around aimlessly, but now he never wants to do those things anymore. Whenever I ask him to get dinner with me, he's always busy and he never asks to hang out anymore. He just wants to come over to have sex. Can you help make sense of that?? If he used to like spending time with me, why would that change? It's not even like he's a friend with a benefit anymore; it's like the friend part is out of the equation.
Thanks in advance Theo!
— Bedtime Betty
Dear Betty,
Too busy? Lame! Somehow he's not too busy to get busy. Sometimes when the friendship line gets crossed, things change drastically. Looks to me like now he's got you, he is focused solely on gettin' some. That happens, especially if he has been biding his time through the so-called friendship. Maybe all the eating and hanging out was in the deepest hope of that "end of the rainbow pot of gold" make-out session and lots of sex. I do hope the sex is good, so you're getting something out of this.
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